Dear Girl in Unstable Relationship/Girl That Can’t Get Over Him/Girl That Needs To Wake The Fuck Up,
If you think arguing over stupid shit, getting mistreated all the time, and fighting constantly are things that you think you deserve, by all means, live happily ever after with that Prince Charming. But for the other girls who are always wondering when he’ll ever change, I have something to tell you. He won’t.
Girls, instead of asking yourself if he’s really worth the trouble, you need to ask yourself what you really deserve. Granted, there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. Everyone’s going to fight and disagree on certain things, but you need to figure out that point in the relationship where too much is too much. Fighting more than usual? Being mad at him more than you are happy with him? No one, girl or guy, deserves to be in that type of relationship. Don’t look at it as that you’re giving up on him, look at it as waking up and living healthy. Fuck that whole I love him enough to see past his mistreatments and your arguments. You’re going to be one miserable woman for a long long time with that mentality. It’s okay to let go. It may not seem like the right thing at the time, but in the long run, you’ll appreciate it once you find the right guy. Then you’ll realize how stupid it was of you to be with him. Trust me on that.
HappyDuckFunTime 3:43 pm (3:43:30 PM): when we’re both taking a shower (3:43:34 PM): somehow across the world (3:43:40 PM): in the miniscule amounts of moisture in the air (3:43:42 PM): we’ll be conected.
I just get so upset when people don’t appreciate what they have and waste their lives away. When they don’t even feel one ounce of guilt or feel as if they ever need to repay those blessing them. Especially when they do the complete opposite. At least learn how to be less self-centered and worried about yourself, so you can gain a little perspective right? For you ‘i don’t give a shit about what others think as long as I’m happy’ people….please reconsider. Because if others are willing to sacrifice and allow you to be happy, don’t be so selfish…
true happiness is almost impossible to achieve. the best way to live life is to strive to be satisfied. you want to go to sleep every night feeling satisfied, and waking up satisfied.
in terms of finding the right friends, look for someone you can tell your whole life story to. we often overlook people who are right in front of us, and dont bother to learn about their life, and then you never know if they were potentially someone worth knowing.
you should surround yourself with friends who reflect who you are. its why fat people hang out with fat people, and ugly people hang out with ugly people. not saying you should only hang out with skinny good looking people, but you get the point. if there is someone in your circle that disagrees with who you are, then they probably do not belong there.
moving on from someone is a tough process, but it just has to happen sooner or later. at first, seeing things that remind you of that person will make you sad. everything stands still and you make yourself feel a bit depressed. keep distracting yourself to get away from depression. later on, you know you made a lot of progress when you see those same things and think back to a happier time in your life. instead of making you sad, you smile instead… a smile on your face though, not a smile on your heart. and the things that stood still before… just lift your head up then youll realize that “hey, i think its time i move those things and maybe put them away.”
when you start missing someone.. you miss their smile, the things you did and the way that other person made you feel. you basically miss the person they used to be or what you wished they would be. you have to realize they arent the same person anymore, which is why youre trying to move on from them.
depression is a downward spiral. an easy way down the spiral is with insecurities and doubting yourself. what you should do when you think youre going down this spiral, tell yourself something that will over power that negative thought. it does not necessarily have to be a positive thought, but something that will block out that negative thought. when you start thinking, “why was i not good enough for this person?” counter it by saying “this person simply cannot accept who i am and does not deserve me.”